Tuesday, November 4, 2014

It's NOT ABOUT THE MONEY

About a month ago we were driving behind a garbage truck on our way to school. Sammy jumped with excitement to see the garbage truck and declared that he wanted to be a Garbage man. Bradley my oldest quickly responded by snickering, "YUK! That is a STINKY JOB!". Sammy said no more, but I interrupted and I told Sammy that if he wanted to be a Garbage man that he could be whatever he wanted, as long as he was honest, hard working, and could support his future family.  I told him I would be honored to be the mother of a righteous garbageman. I think I have learned what President Uchtdorf taught in this last Priesthood session when he said, "When I was younger, I was impressed by those who were educated, accomplished, successful, and applauded by the world. But over the years, I have come to the realization that I am far more impressed by those wonderful and blessed souls who are truly good and without guile."
After my boys were dropped off at school I could not shake off my mind what my oldest son had said. I wasn't so concern with Sammy being hurt by his brother's remarks because Sammy knows what he wants and does not get bothered by what others think of him. However, my concern turned quickly to my oldest. I wondered what had I done as a parent to make him think that any job is less or more than any other job. I quickly thought of how I could make a correction. Recently we have been focusing on hard work, last night we had a lesson working hard in our home. I don't want my boys to ever look down on a job that can earn them an honest living. When I was in college I learned too quickly that many of my college mates were fixing to be thieves in suits. I could barely pull a A in Calculus and some of these college kids who had not ever stepped a foot on campus suddenly Aced a test!! I wanted to give these same students the benefit of the doubt, I would tell myself that maybe they were geniuses but that was not always the case.  I saw so much dishonesty and disregard for hard work that it was disappointing. I have come to the conclusion as a parent that I would rather have an honest, hard working garbage man as a son than a thief in a suit. I tell my kids that the key to success is not always being a genius, because there are geniuses who are lazy, the key to success is being honest, and working hard, being smart is just a bonus. I don't know if all my kids will enjoy hard work as much as Sammy does, but I sure do hope that they can see the blessings that come from being and honest hard worker. These days I am not impressed easily by those with wealth or are accomplished, but I am impressed by those who try to do good. Recently a friend of mine took a new job, really his dream job where he could do what he always wanted to do with his career. His previous employer was willing to increase his pay substantially to keep my friend in his old job. My friend did not budge, he explained to his old employer that it was not about the money. The previous employer could not believe my friend was willing to leave such a great offer, the truth is that it was never about the money, my friend was scouted by a family friendly company who was giving him more than money could give him, time with his family and a dream job. In fact, the bonus part of his job is that they will now be closer to their extended family. People like this friend are the ones who really impress me!